It’s camisole, cleavage & bikini season, and I have to approach the topic from several different angles–one with my teenage son, another with my newly teenage daughter, another with the 3rd child soaking it all in. Then there’s another angle…one of mom-to-mom, because as Christians, we’re called to sharpen one another in the faith (Prov. 27:17) and exhort each other to faith-filled living (1 Tim. 4:13 & 2 Tim. 4:2).
So I’m gonna say it:
Christian Moms, we need to prayerfully lead and teach our kids to live a set-apart life. It isn’t all about modesty, there’s so much more to it. And because of God’s grace, we can approach each behavior and scenario with faith-filled, freedom-loving good news instead of condemning, self-righteous, rule-driven legalism. One of the best ways to teach it is to live it ourselves. Then we prayerfully correct and direct as the Lord leads us, no matter if they like us or not.
Vicki Courtney is someone I’ve long admired who does a good job of this, and she is one who has sharpened me in my parenting, because she gleans her wisdom and advice from the Word of God.
With her permission, I’m sharing this powerful article she wrote awhile back. Last year, I used each paragraph as a daily conversation with all 3 of my kids at their different levels…finding out where they were, what made this hard or doable for them…then prayed with them on it. And while I was at it, I thought through the application for myself as an “older woman” in the faith.
I plan to do it again with them as soon as school is out, because oh, how a year can change things.
Maybe you can do the same with your family. At the very least, pray how the Lord might want to use His Truth to turn away from “Crowd” living and toward “Cross” (meaning, Jesus’ way) living.
Crowd or Cross?
By: Vicki Courtney
When it comes to making money, the crowd says: “Money makes the world go ’round!”
The cross says: It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God! (Matt. 19:24)
When it comes to possessions, the crowd says: “He who has the most toys wins.”
The cross says: “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.” (Matt. 6:19)
When it comes to illegally downloading music, the crowd says: “Who cares?! The record artists make enough money as it is.”
The cross says: Thou shalt not steal. (Lev. 19:11; Rom. 13:9)
When it comes to dressing immodestly, the crowd says: “If you’ve got it, flaunt it!”
The cross says: I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety… (1 Tim. 2:9)
When it comes to viewing porn, the crowd says: “Hey, pretty much everybody does it.”
The cross says: But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality. (Eph. 5:3)
When it comes to inappropriate talk, the crowd says: “We’re just joking around!”
The cross says: Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. (Eph. 5:4)
When it comes to sex outside of marriage, the crowd says: “Just do it!”
The cross says: Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Heb. 13:4)
When it comes to casual hook-ups, the crowd says: “What’s the big deal?
The cross says: Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. (Prov. 31:10)
When it comes to drinking, the crowd says: “everyone does it!”
The cross says: Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, let the Holy Spirit fill and control you. (Eph. 5:18)
When it comes to homosexuality, the crowd says: “It’s a genetic thing! They can’t help it!”
The cross says: And the men, instead of having normal sexual relationships with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men…(Rom. 1:27)
When it comes to unplanned pregnancies, the crowd says: “Terminate it! It’s just a blob of tissue.”
The cross says: For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb….your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. (Psalm 139:13, 16)
When comes to sharing your faith, the crowd says: “Don’t! You might offend someone!”
The cross says: Go and make disciples of all nations. (Matt. 28:19)
When it comes to heaven, the crowd says: “No worries! As long as you’re a good person, you’re in!”
The cross says: The highway to hell is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose the easy way. But the gateway to life is small, and the road is narrow, and only a few ever find it. (Matt. 7:13)
When it comes to other faiths, the crowd says: “Many paths lead to the same God.”
The cross says: I am the Way and the Truth and the Life and no one comes to the Father except through Me. (John 14:6)
If you had to add something from your corner of the world, what would it be? Something that has been on my heart and mind lately is the crud that many professing Christians watch and listen to…so maybe something like this:
The CROWD says that the sexual music we listen to isn’t a big deal. It’s just fun to dance to. Oh, and the movies we watch with God’s name cursed and misused, along with all kinds of other perverse behaviors really aren’t a big deal. After all, it’s just a movie…doesn’t mean I’ll do the same thing.
The Word of God says “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. Put away from you a deceitful mouth and put devious speech far from you…Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be established. Do not turn to the right nor to the left;Turn your foot from evil.” Prov. 4:23-27 (also see 1 Cor. 6:11-13, Eph. 5:2-4, Gal. 5:18-25, Rev. 2:19-21)
Longer winded and less eloquent, but it’s a Truth I’m putting before myself and my kids. What about you?
Vicki Courtney is an author and speaker with a ministry that reaches over 150,000 girls and mothers a year through events, books, and online resources. A mother herself of three children, she seeks to provide tweens, teens, and their parents with the tools necessary to navigate today’s promiscuous culture. She’s written 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, which is a top 50 CBA best-seller. Vicki is currently working on 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son, which will release in late Spring, 2011.
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