As I went to tuck in my girls at bedtime one evening when they were younger, I found two pairs of my clothes on the floor–clothes that they had sorted through and put on after having promised to return them to their rightful place. Earlier that day, they’d dressed up like moms and pretended to go shopping. It was really funny to watch and especially convicting to hear their lingo. Do I really talk that way? I wondered. Nah, must be someone else’s mom.
I remember the feeling of putting on my aunt’s shoes or my older sister’s clothes when I was their age. I also have fond memories of being at my friends’ houses and putting on way too much makeup in the name of “playing.” It was so much fun, I smile just thinking about it.
Yet, here I am today, an older woman, a long-time believer in the Lord, and I still find myself trying to wear others’ clothes from time to time. If you are an extremely confident person, never comparing yourself to others, feel free to skip this post, but for the rest of us, whoa, boy, does God need to get our attention on this.
Friends, God doesn’t want us to slip into the trap of wanting or trying to be somebody we’re not. It’s perfectly healthy to emulate Godly role models or mentors, and it’s certainly advisable to strive to be more like Jesus, but that’s not what I’m referring to. I’m talking about the icky kind of comparison–comparing the way we’re wired or created to that of others.
I wish I could speak like her.
Why does she look ten years younger than me when we’re the same age?
I’ll never be as good of a mommy as she is.
Well, I’d be more godly too if I had a husband like hers.
There are so many good writers out there. Maybe I should just give up now. She decorates, she cooks, she cleans, she’s perfect. Then there’s me.
I could question on, but you get the point. What’s floating in the dialogue bubble outside your brain?
Many messages of God’s truth could be applied here, but I’ll just land on a few. The first is that this type of comparison boils down to envy and pride. Yuck! Proverbs 14:30 says, “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” No wonder the “she” above looks ten years younger than me! My bones are rotting more each moment I look at her! 😉
It’s great to improve ourselves, to try new things, to do activities outside of our comfort zones, but we need to be praying that our motive would be to do it in order to serve the Lord and others, by His grace, for His glory–not out of pride, competition or envy.
I absolutely love, Love, LOVE the following verses from Hebrews:
Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great Shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, equip you with everything good that you may do His will, working in us that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen.
YES! I want to be made into one who is pleasing in His sight, not what will make me feel like a better person or fulfill my petty pride.
So try this on for size: Let’s talk to Him, ask Him what He has purposed for us, search it out according to His Truth and then live the way we’re wired to the fullest, all to the glory of our Jesus, forever and always. Amen.
“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit,
but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
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